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Minas Polychronakis                                                                                    
ENG 101

DR. McCormick

11/7/10

            How can Romantic relationships stay strong and happy ? It is not an easy process but can through a number of ways. To begin it is important to for partners to confront each other when any type of problems or issues occur. Another way is for partners to keep a strong communication and lack of timefor each other.  Last  partners must work together in order to look after one another.  My friend is a good example of a strong and happy relationship.In my paper I will argue what steps are needed to  done in order for a relationship to stay strong, happy and Successful.

           It is important for Romantic partners to confront each other  when ever a problem or issue comes up.  When a problem occurs in a relationship like one partner complains to the other about how they look, finding out they made a mistake, or even both partners arguing about who is right and who is wrong. Another issue is for both partner doing the same activities and not  trying something new.  It is important for both  partners to spend time discussing their issues and not fight or get violent with one another.  As an example my friend has almost had an argument once over his girlfriend smoking a cigarette for a day. My friend does not like his girlfriend smoking because he’s concerned for her health. As a result what had happen was happen was they both had discuses the problem and they both had come to an agreement  and settled the problem.  If conditions of the relationship become too complicated to fix among themselves there are other ways they can get help with their problems. They can get help from a psychologist or counselor. Also better yet they can seek help from their family and friends. They are the most important when it comes for need of support. Partners should not to be limited  when it comes to activities.  In many relationships couples end to limit the amount of activities they do when spending time with each other. An example a couple will do the same activities every week go see a movie and have dinner right after.  After a period of time it will get very tireing and boring there by creating a problem for the relationship because both partners will becomebored of one another.  In “Happier” by Tal Ben Shahar pg 113 he states “Love cannotlast without a rational foundation.”  Expanding the activities a couple does will benefit them by increasing their happiness.  An example my friend not only his girlfriend’s house on the weekend or just buys her a nice dinner. They go horse back riding in Pennsylvania, explore the city checking out stores and new places to eat, and try Out new video games when at his own house for a weekend. 

         During the relationship it is important to keep the lack of communication and time spent together strong.  In relationships there are many obstacles that interfere with both partners. For an example the girlfriend could be busy with school doing paper assignments and projects that require a lot of time, or for the boyfriend he may have to work extra hours because it is required of his job.  When these problems occur it is important that both partners keep a strong communication during these tough times. Not all the time a relationship means that you will have all the time in the world. Their will be all kinds of interferences.  If not enough strong communication is kept during the relationship the lack of feeling for both individuals will begin to diminish.For example the way my friend makes up time for him and his girlfriend, he works on certain days and she had a large number of classes. What they do to make time for one another is carefully plan out at least one or two days a week to spent some good quality time for each other.  This way they keep the love and time for one another fare or even better balanced. Also mention by  Tal Ben Shahar  on page 118 “In order to feel satisfied within a relationship, we have to feel that the transaction is equitable.”

       In a relationship it is important for both partners to look out and take care of one another.  In a relationship it is wise that both partners make an effort to look after one another helping each other pay the bills, doing chores around the house or apartment,or even looking after each others relative.  For an example if only one of the partnersis taking all the responsibility and the other is not doing anything but just depending onlyon their partner, then there will be problems.  The reason for this is because it is unfair to the partner that is taking all the responsibility and also it shows that the other partner does not care.  Now if both partners are to contribute to helping each other out then it would be fare and they can have a happy working relationship. For an example my friend and his girlfriend both go to school.  Now they look out for each other by helping each other with their school work. She has a art class so he helps her with her art projects and for him she helps him with his paper assignments. Its like team work and it is fare for both partners. Another example one couple the boyfriend helps his girlfriend around the house with the cooking, laundry and fixing up the house.  As for the girlfriend she would be helping him out with paying off a bill, driving him to school, or making meals for him when he comes home from school or work.  If both partners are helping one Another out they will be able to maintain their happiness as well as increase it knowingthat they both truly care for one another. 

             Can Happiness for Romantic partners stay happy and strong? They mostdefiantly can if the right steps are done.  When ever problems occur it is wise andvery smart that both partners confront each other about it. Talking it out or gettinghelp from family or friends.  For couples it is also important to try out new thingsand not be limited.  Keeping good communication  of both partners and balancing out time for one another during busy times.  Last most important of all looking out for each other in everyway possible. All of these steps being done will maintain the level of happiness and increase creating a happy and strong relationship